*Thanks to Debra Dickey-Liang for sharing her thoughts on motherhood, and happy early Mother’s Day, Debra!*
My commission in this life is to be an advocate and a caretaker, e.g., a peacemaker. I know this with every fiber of my being. It is an inherent part of me. It is the way I perceive things; it’s the way I feel about things, and it is the way in which I am compelled to construct the days of my life. This task involves many dimensions, and can sometimes be exhausting, but when presented with a situation, I have never backed away from the opportunity to replace chaos and confusion with peace and harmony, if it is at all within my sphere of influence.
My mission on this earth is to be the mom of Adam and Rachel. This I know. I am humbled and honored. I have not taken either entrustment lightly. The greatest honor in my life was to be given the incredible opportunity to be the mom of Adam and Rachel – precious gifts, perfectly given.
My two children are the best things that ever happened in my life. They are both amazing and outstanding human beings, with extraordinary strength of character, possessing kind and loving natures and caring, giving spirits. Being incredibly gifted and accomplished people, my children leave a positive and lasting impression in whatever they do.
As a young person readying my life to go out into the world, although I had lofty dreams of being a missionary and serving the masses in a foreign land, I’m sure that I would have ultimately chosen to be a nurse, or if not that, a teacher – one, because those were the typical options open to girls, and two, because that’s who I am. But things conspired in such a way that instead of pursuing more education, I found myself working in a public school setting, and I absolutely loved it! Yet I still knew that there was more to be done, but how, where, when, and was I the one to accomplish it? I wrestled with those questions for a long time, while filling my life with people whom I could serve on a smaller scale, and simultaneously creating friendships and memories that have lasted throughout my life.
Then, I had children. All those lofty dreams of foreign lands (I did get to travel!), those choices of being a nurse or a teacher (I spent lots of time doing both!), that holy commission of creating peace and harmony as advocate/caretaker/peacemaker (worked at that every day!), questions about what more needed to done (no doubt about how much needed to done!), and was I the one to do it (who else?!?! absolutely and positively!), it didn’t take me long to realize that I was accomplishing all the things on my list, just in a different way, with a different audience, and with the very best of educations. My children have taught me so much and have shared so many insights, and their own wisdom, knowledge, joy, and courage with me, that I cannot begin to imagine a life without the richness and boundless depths of essence and purpose which only they could have made possible.
In the words of a friend and mentor, “No matter what else happens, I have already done my best work.”